Here’s some great advice for those PTP-ers with expectations for intimacy:
At the start of a date, please present the [compensation/allowance
installment/gift/donation/token of generosity] promptly. If you don’t,
this will (especially if you’re meeting a woman who has never done this
before or has been jilted; or have not explicitly agreed on a set
amount) make her hesitant, colder, more nervous, and less trusting. If
you have not agreed on a specific amount, veer towards the generous end
of that range. Doing so will engender good-will. i.e., doing more than
you have to will make her think, “aw, shucks, what a great guy!” and
your relationship may even come to be more gift-exchange than purchasing
services. Don’t give a gift or a “tip” every time or else it’ll just
become a part of what she expects and will no longer have the effect it
Phrasing the gift as a ‘donation range’ is…useful, because it can
include meetings of various duration… the down-side of ‘donation ranges’
is that she’ll always end up feeling a bit jilted if you go below the
max amount of the range…and will think about the $$$ more because she
won’t be able to know what she’s getting. I think the best way to go is
to establish something that’s fair and a bit lower than you’re
comfortable with, go beyond that regularly but not always, and simply
increase the $$ amount in line with the duration of your meeting in a
fairly predictable way.
Write her name on an otherwise blank envelope (extra points if you
include a thoughtful card or draw something on it) and either slip it
inside her purse, leave it in a visible place within your hotel room/her
apartment, or [best of all] tuck the envelope inside a book/dvd-box you
think she’d enjoy or a gift-bag (with a bottle of wine, some
toiletries, a piece of jewelry) and hand it to her directly.
Allow her to see it but do not make a comment about it. PLEASE JUST
DO IT! Do not pull bills out of your wallet and count them and then hand
them to her! Do not drop crumpled or loose bills inside her purse! 50s
and 100s are especially nice…and very impressive. 20s are a bit like
play-money. (Sorry, but it bugs me when SDs are less thoughtful about
handing you cash than clients). The erotic review has some great
suggestions re etiquette around this.
Please let the time you are together happen naturally. Do not try to
talk about services and what she is going to do for you … (unless this
was a part of your pre-PTP flirtation & chemistry/dynamic).
Honestly, grab a ‘pick-up artist’ instruction book & try the advice
out…In my humble opinion, the only way for this to not be prostitution
is if you can actually seduce the chick before getting physical… and
with PTP, you have less time and you aren’t taking the risk of giving
cash or material gifts and getting nothing…so it doesn’t have as much of
the damsel-in-distress-to-white-knight-affection-mechanism going.
Great ways to break the ice are to ask a lot about her (non-personal
things) and listen closely, or by talking about sexy subjects, films,
books, movies, experiences, etc., and to complement her in a creative,
thoughtful way. Also – games. Stormy can tell you about the ‘box’ game;
truth or dare also works. Or offer her a back-rub. I don’t know. Read
Unfortunately, you aren’t seeing a professional…so you do have to
think. Watch her body-language & don’t push things. If she seems
uncomfortable (with you moving closer, with being kissed, with being
touched, with a request to undress, whatever…), take it slower.
Unfortunately, you aren’t seeing a professional, so you have to do some
of the seduction work.
If your attempts at breaking the ice/creating chemistry/whatever
fail, ask her if she feels uncomfortable with this…or how she’s
feeling…or if she has something on her mind. Listen & try to get a
feel if it’s ‘discomfort with sugar’, ‘moving too quickly’ or…you. Say
something like “hey, don’t do this if you aren’t comfortable with it.”
or “would you like to just hang out?” Be prepared to give financial or
career or personal life counseling at this point.
Hey, you may not get laid, but you’ll probably get some cuddling in
and the glow of a girl who thinks you’re “a really nice, sweet guy.” And
you won’t leave feeling like you’ve taken advantage of someone.
Be respectful of her time and also of not making her feel like a
whore. Don’t just get up, dressed and dash the moment after, unless you
have to (a bit of cuddling, a drink or something is always nice). But
also be respectful of her time-constraints. If she seems antsy/like she
isn’t mentally there any more, ask what else she has to do that day, or
ask her if she has time to have a glass of wine, or ask her if she has
time for you to show her something…that basically gives her an ‘out’ if
she wants to dash.